As the year 2020 has come to a close and the New Year has begun, it’s tradition to do a self-inventory. This is the exercise where most people look over their prior year goals to see what was accomplished and set new goals for the year ahead. I am normally one of those people, but it looked a bit different for me this year.
While I can do my traditional self-inventory and check off the list of tangible things I’ve accomplished, I will not because truth is – I have not been motivated to do that. While there have been quite a few tangible accomplishments in 2020 (and for those I am grateful and truly blessed), I am purposely choosing not to focus on those things. Instead my attention has been captured by some intangibles that I feel need recognition – I am healthy, I am whole, and I am happy.
When we see the word “healthy” most people automatically think physical health. Physical health is obviously important, but I want to shout out mental health here. The pandemic of 2020 forced the world to slow down and in some cases sit still. There’s something about stillness that most people don’t or can’t appreciate. Stillness allows one to focus and to see and hear clearer. The beginning of the verse in Psalms 46:10 says, “Be still and know…” There’s something revealed in stillness that allows us to *know* some things. This stillness in 2020 revealed some things to us both collectively and individually. The stillness forced some people to really understand and know themselves on a deeper level.
I’ve seen several posts floating on the socials about 2020 revealing who your real friends are. But did you know that your friend selection is a reflection of yourself? Have you ever heard the saying, “you are the sum of the 5 people closest to you”? I would venture to say that your true friends weren’t revealed in 2020, but your true self was. The pandemic stillness forced the collective to SEE themselves more clearly. And what you saw in 2020 was you being reflected back to yourself. If the thing that was reflected back to you was something you did not like, well… HEAL THY SELF
A whole self is the collective of a healthy mind, body and spirit. We tend to focus so much on our physical “healthy self” that we neglect the other parts that make up the totality of our whole person. In 2020, although I focused on my physical self, I also slowed down to focus on my spiritual and mental self. I added tools to my “whole self” tool box that hold me accountable and keep me grounded. These “tools” are not tangible things, but rather actions that I practice that add value to my whole person, not just one part of me. Some of those actions include being intentional about proper rest, quiet time, meditation, some sort of physical activity, reading, eating fruits/veggies, taking time to know and understand myself so that I can be unapologetically me, and therapy, I cant forget therapy!
In case you didn’t know yet, your happiness is your job alone. Happiness doesn’t depend on anybody outside of YOU. 2020 allowed me to focus on understanding what makes me happy. I had the time and space to discover what happiness looks like for me. I came to understand that what made me happy in one season, did not make me happy in another. Understand that as you grow, your likes/dislikes and things that make you happy change and grow with you and that’s ok.
To me, happiness is:
- Enforcing boundaries
- Saying no
- Speaking up and being honest when something bothers me
- Being PRESENT and enjoying the NOW
- Sitting still – not allowing myself to always “chase” the next goal or thing on my “to-do” list
- Staying home and not feeling obligated to go out
- Not justifying or questioning my intuition
- Talking to my therapist
And so many other tangible and intangible things. What makes me happy will not make you happy. The good thing about happiness is that it is relative to YOU. I encourage you, if you haven’t already, to figure out what makes you happy and do more of it!
2020 may not have been a good year in the world, and some things may have gone wrong in your world, but we are now in 2021 and there is something about new things that give hope. Think about a new home, a new car, a new love or anything “new” you’ve ever had. Remember that that instant hope and satisfaction that came along with that newness?
We are in a New Year baby and you are here!!! So what if you don’t have it all figured out or if you haven’t mapped out your new year just yet. BE intentional about being happy, healthy and whole and that is good enough.
As always, thanks to my readers. I appreciate your feedback.
Doing all things in “honesty, love and transparency”